Let’s Get Acquainted!
Allow me to introduce myself, and just so we are on the same page, my first name is NOT Mommy, yet everyone seems to think it is. My name is actually Letitia, and here I guess I shall be known as “Brooklyn Cocoa Mommy”, simply because I am a Chocolate Skin, Brooklyn mother. During my pregnancy, I started transforming my Instagram following, tailoring it to those accounts that promoted fashionable pregnant mothers, motherhood that seemed picture perfect, and of course any baby related account that seemed relevant to my taste. There were many Blogs and Vlogs I came across, but the nature of my lifestyle I don’t have the time to watch Vlogs, so the varying IG clips I watch or Blogs I come across is where I, personally received the bulk of my Crash Course into the Lifestyle of the Varying Motherhood of Social Media. However, the limited exposure that I had into other mother’s life, I was unable to relate to many of them. Yes I am married and have a devoted husband, but our reality is the “HOT MESS EXPRESS’ Train. Where are the mothers’ that look like me or even struggling like me? Where are the mothers that live like me? I don’t live in a house, we rent, and do not own property. We are making it day by day, yet consistently I am inundated with images of parenthood “with a house and picket fence”. How many of us really live like this? I’ve decided that I want to add some diversity by sharing my reality as raw as it can potentially be. So let’s grab a cup of Hot Cocoa or even some Tea (because Brooklyn Cocoa Mommy doesn’t drink coffee) and let’s get acquainted.
A few things about me; I am a new mother to two girls, soon to exit the “Two Under Two phase”. I am a librarian (currently working PT until the girls are 2 &3) and my husband is a public service employee, which requires him to work extensive hours, often leaving me solo with my two girls. I tried working full time 9 weeks after the birth of my 1st daughter in 2017 and it was an extremely difficult transition. My maternity leave started a few weeks earlier than planned, because I suffered with Hypermesis Gravidum also known as HG and it was awful (this will be discussed in a future post). I had minimal support because many people just aren’t aware of the condition and it caused me to have attendance issues at work… needless to say I didn’t get the full 12 weeks to bond and adjust with my child before having to return to work. Did I mention that I was also a nursing (still am) mother as well? And my child care was family, whom I love dearly, but does not agree with a lot of my parenting style and choices. The main issue here is a generational and cultural gap.
I’ve noticed through my Mommy Groups on Facebook, that there are so many varying issues that either aren’t talked about, talked about passively, or topics that lead to misinformation. Because I am a Librarian (aka Information Specialist) misinformation is my biggest pet peeve. Noticing that articles from satire sites and other non-reputable sources made me cringe. It was killing me that people were/are making life choices based on misinformation and they aren’t even aware of it. So I decided that I can put this expensive a$$ degree to good use for the public, so I am going to blog from a different approach. Real topics, Real life, with REAL Information. So let’s go get this Cocoa (or tea, or coffee, heck we can make it wine too)!